How to Have the Last Laugh: Overcoming Ghosting Like a Boss

 Are You a Victim of Ghosting?
 This blog May Help You....

One may be in any place, position or at any financial level. The majority of us have been or are being victims of “Ghosting” for sure. Ghosting is not something horrific but tragic for most.

What is Ghosting ?

Ghosting is The Practice of ending all communication and contact with another person without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communication made by said person. (Source: Wikipedia)

Familiar, right?

• Tears slide from your eyes when something reminds you of the good time with them, Pillows drenched with tears alone know the depth of the pain other than you.
• “What did I do?” “Did I commit any wrong?” ” Don’t I deserve an explanation?” These questions may make you miserable about your worthiness and pester your mind with guilt.
• Sometimes controlled tears may lead to frustration that bursts up as anger over things that were silly before.
• Ranting and venting out that grief may not be sufficient for you.
• Happiness seems like a lost child in a crowd.
• Your self-worth and mental equilibrium may swing like a pendulum.

 

You may experience any one of the above or all of the above.

What can be Done?

There is stereotypical advice you may get from people around you like, “Just try to talk to them”, “ask them”, “Set aside your ego”, and here comes the most popular advice, “Just let it go…” but no one will say “HOW?” and the important thing is they can’t tell “HOW” because other than you no one couldn’t tell the ” HOW?” part.
But let me throw some light on some points of this perception, “THIS MAY HELP YOU!”

• You didn’t think about why the person was friendly with me or talking to me or why the person was so close and making me so happy but accepted and enjoyed their presence. Similarly, try to swallow and digest their absence.
• You were happy and knew what happiness is, even before the person who ghosted you came into your life. The person may be a reason for happy moments but not the source. If you think deeper, you always had the choice to be Happy, but you associated your happiness with that person, but it was never them.
• Respect their feelings and give them their space. You may be toxic to them, they are also a human, so give them their space and value the same, which is the respect you give to the person and who they were for you before. Stop condemning and start thinking for a while from their shoes.

I like to conclude with two famous quotes that helped me to think from a different point of view.